Cause some females definitely aren't looking for one. They would rather have a, excuse the lack of a better term, cutty buddy. Or as they'll explain a friend who they're cool with, can chill with, yet still receive quality sex from either before or after the time spent together. By taking the risk of sounding a bit feminine, isn't that normally the job description of a boyfriend?
There's many ways to identify someone as a significant other, especially as a girlfriend. Women reach the status of girlfriend as soon as they leave something over a man's crib and it isn't accidental. Another way is when he'll kiss in the mouth... in front of folks. As soon as either moment happens she has become his lady. It's that simple! More often than not though you'll find a woman who is unclear with her relationship status when dealing with a chill dude who is steady knocking the bottom out her ass with nine and a half inches of ding-dong. On the contrary a man will without hesitation declare his solitude when confronted with the same. So why are women so unsure in these scenarios? Better yet why are people so unsure in these scenarios?
Lack of communication? Well that's the apparent answer, but other factors tie in as well. Like comfort. When anyone becomes adequate with a situation why on earth would they risk losing that feeling for another that may or may not work out? If a man is getting some ass on the regular and never has to put in any work for it why would he start doing it now cause you want a bit more security. I'm sure your mother has asked you "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free" Some of you ladies prices are just too damn low. If you want to get a man to commit to you sex is not the answer, it may be in question and if it is, YES is the answer. Make someone work you for, cause no dude is gonna wife up a girl that too easy by his standards. If you feel you have been wifed up and you moved a little too fast for your liking then maybe you should reevaluate the quality of your man. Speaking of quality... A wise man once said that the only thing more important than quality is equality. Relationships should be 50/50 for the most part at least. How about we say that they should average out to 50/50.
When you are going through your "we just talking" phase you need to see what type of man you're dealing with, so what the hell, do some research. Men will be quick to ask around about any female he is considering so ladies should do the same. I don't know how many times I've seen a dude sweet talk a female into thinking that she's the one his about to bun up when actually he'll get the sex then ask for the next. It works like a charm, over and over and over again; same shit, just a different toilet. It's kinda like when I was younger and I use to watch Batman and I was always curious to know why the villains never just tried to takeover a different city, cause it clearly wasn't happening in Gotham. Even though Batman would stop each every criminal a new one would arrive and think that they "being different" would have a way to conquer the city. By doing some simple research they could have taken over all the neighboring towns and cities. I shall call this my Gotham City Corollary. If you do some research then you can find out if this is a selfish individual or he's someone that will lose interest easy. Most importantly though you'll find out if he's the type that will commit to a relationship. This way you can get out when it's early and little to no emotions involved and maybe you feel so bad about giving
In my opinion, some folks don't commit or become official even, because of a internal fear. With a relationship comes responsibilities, expectations, and most importantly consequences for particular actions. No one wants to deal with that if it is required so its up to the women to prove, in a sense, that she's worth the trouble. This all goes back to being a quality female, a lady that a man has to put in the work. When dealing with a relationship you shouldn't but you do have to change your behavior slightly and become considerate of the others feelings and opinions on matters. It boils down to though that people (men in particular) are afraid of what they can become. A good woman will make a man better, a great woman can make him unparalleled. Some men aren't ready to make what I would call "the leap" from ordinary to extraordinary
At the end of the day though one should just put pride to the side and ask. That why you can get the low down and there will be no more excuses.
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