A wise man once said"I can't put you up on a pedestal if you don't want to sit there"
(Well he's not that wise but he has his moments)
Not all men intend on having multiple women. Some men actually want to wife youngins up. (Not on some marriage shit, but on some exclusive grown man your my women shit) and this is all well and good as long as both parties are fine with the situation. The problem occurs when a women is either unable or incapable of seeing what's in front of her. Seeing that this man is different from the shitty guys she has come in contact with and not only can he make her better but they can be a movement (excuse the reference) together.
Maybe she just doesn't want that or isn't interested in it which is all well and good, however...... "He May Not Come When You Want Him, But He's Always Right On Time". Now as most of you kno this is a reference to God. I feel this is also indicative of that quintessential "one". You kno, "the one" we're all supposed to find. You may not see him/her when your in the midst of your shit and you need someone to save you, but they're around when your not lookin, you just need to open your eyes and accept it.
As the saying goes " Nice guys finish last". This is almost always evident in reference to men and women in relationships. If you step back and observe some of your female friends and their relationships, almost 98% of them are in situations with "aint shit dudes", and 97.9% of them Love that man to death and want to be with him till death. Yet when they're in relationships with good bammas, they're never content. It seems like women are gluttons for punishment.
Yet you will always hear a women say dudes aint shit, or there are no good men out there, or all men are boys.
This simply isn't true. At the core YOU DON'T WANT A GOOD GUY
well 2% of you do
You can't mold that bad boy and his edge into what you want it to be period. You'll just end up preggo and in regret.
Now last but not least, I'm gonna touch on women who are already in relationships. These women are special cases. Some began with a good guy and the others start with a shitty one but he matures and realizes her worth. The women with a good guy are still stuck in their "I wanna do me" mode. Which is cool for single youngins but for a committed chick it's not apart of the master plan. These joints have a man who's puttin up with her shit but will eventually reach his limit. Finally we have the chicks who had a guy who stepped out, was "doin him", trappin, bein shitty etc. Yet she chose to stay with him for hopes that he'll become better. And like the pheonix he rose from the ashes a better person. However now his youngin is on her own shit. Maybe it's reciprocation, or just her bein her real self. The fact remains that he is better, he's hopefully treatin you how you wanted, and u should accept that and stay the person you were before. If you chose to forgive him, do just that and move on.
I'm a believer that
CHILVALRY IS DEAD, BUT GOOD MEN WILL LIVE FOR EVER
Basically
"I can't put you up on a pedestal if you don't want to sit there"
SHAWTY LET ME UPGRADE YOU
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My opinion is that she has dealt with a lot of ain't shit niggas in her life...and I have a well crafted thesis about such a subject.
Allow yourself to enduldge:
Shawty say the nigga that she with aint shit...
And he probably isn’t.
So why do females constantly accept “aint shit” dudes? Not only do they allow them into their lives but they become so wrapped up in their bull shit that the female themselves gets dragged down with them.
It can be a multitude of reasons, 1. Not growing up with a proper example of what a man should be like. 2. A low self-esteem; which leads to a willingness to accept any guy who merely shows you attention. or
3. Sometimes females start off with a sheep and then upon realization he is in fact a wolf, she lacks the experience and mental strength to know when to let go.
Either category that a female fits into is not a valid excuse after the first time.
If you are a habitual ‘aint shit” magnet, it’s no longer the environmental influences or the guy….it’s YOU!
According to Katt Williams, “you need to figure out what it is about your pussy that keep attracting aint shit niggas!”
There is something you need to look at within yourself and figure out why you are satisfied with being with someone who “aint shit”
Or is it really the guy who isn’t shit…it might be you…..turn around…smell your ass just to make sure!
Be by yourself for a while, figure out what it is that you do and what you want out of a guy…and once you figure everything out…stick with it!
The sadder part about these females is once they encounter an “aint shit” friend (usually a female friend) they are willing to drop them in a heartbeat, which is fine, as long as it applied to your relationships as well.
My synopsis at the end of the day is, if you like aint shit dudes….thats fine….just stop complaining.
Especially when there are steps you can take to not repeat past mistakes.
I like you blog!!!
I know this isn't relevant to this post but I have a question.....
How do men feel about women taking the initiative and asking them out? Does it seem too forward or too aggressive?
sounds good on the lemme upgrade u
but
y shud we put up wit so much just for them to realize and then become better men
y do we have to leave for them to figure it out
after we've moved on
why is chivalry dead?
Also there should be a blog about what is a man.
ok I am back to comment bc I love this wale song so I had to come back to listen to it but... one thing I don't agree with you is the chivarly is dead thing bc its not and thats what the good girls or nice girls or whatever look for and the fact that you want to put any girl on a pedestal means there will be chivarly involved peace out
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